tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45820439566257485552012-02-13T08:12:59.106-06:00The Mormon TherapistA safe, confidential "advice column" to get your questions answered.Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.comBlogger5601100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-86335684854417720582012-02-08T00:51:00.018-06:002012-02-08T09:03:04.478-06:00Pornography as an addiction?I'd be interested in hearing your perspective on pornography and its addictive nature. I've heard that it can change the brain more then alcoholism.
Pornography use in terms of the word "addiction" is a complicated and highly debated issue in the mental health arena. There are pros and cons to the label "addiction." On the one hand it can be shaming and often misused when not diagnosed Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-10207166509191453802012-01-28T09:34:00.000-06:002012-01-28T09:34:02.796-06:00When sex hurts....I was reading your article about the physical relationship for married couples in the LDS faith. My wife and I are members and have been married for 5 years. For our entire marriage, intimacy has been incredibly painful for her. We have been to 5 different OB/GYNs with no real help. Responses have ranged from "it will get better after you've had a baby" to "use lubrication" (which we always Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-82634512474383022822012-01-17T23:24:00.000-06:002012-01-17T23:24:55.167-06:00Is the World Getting Worse?Check out the latest Mormon Matters episode where I'm part of the panel:
Is the World Getting Worse?Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-41709343032736611542012-01-16T11:50:00.001-06:002012-01-16T11:51:17.085-06:00Sexual Education GuidelinesNew Sex Ed Guidelines coming out. Thoughts? Agreements? Disagreements?
What Should Second Graders Know About Sex?Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-43584163840764609062012-01-09T23:15:00.007-06:002012-01-10T17:18:59.378-06:00Engaged and struggling...I am a faithful and active member of the LDS church. In my teens I brushed with a form of textual pornography. I worked through it with my bishop when I was 17 and never went back to it since. I over-corrected myself.
I found the love of my life six months ago. We got engaged last month. And I've been more affectionate with him than anyone. We've napped together, cuddled horizontally, pushed Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-16426700290950131212012-01-09T17:10:00.001-06:002012-01-09T17:11:25.175-06:00Addiction RecoveryWonderful podcast over at Mormon Matters regarding addiction recovery. Highly recommend for addicts and/or family/friends of addicts.
Spiritual Secrets of AddictionNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-33886299014749558752011-12-10T22:55:00.005-06:002011-12-10T23:04:35.031-06:00I am suffering from premature ejaculation...I am currently suffering from premature ejaculation, a problem which is negatively impacting my sexual relationship with my wife. I wish I was a "minute-man" -- I'm more like a "30-second-man"! I've been prescribed Paxil, which has helped, but I don't like the way SSRIs make me feel, and I'd rather not become dependent on them for sexual function. At the very least, I'd like to start Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-62215649023179622292011-12-10T21:00:00.000-06:002011-12-10T23:28:17.611-06:00New PollPlease take time to fill out the new poll on my sidelines about teachings regarding masturbation. Thank you!Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-82235401852492331822011-12-02T16:56:00.000-06:002011-12-02T16:56:17.178-06:00Teen MasturbationI have a question about my son having a hard time not taking long showers and he says he has looked at porn. He has been working with our bishop but how do I confront him about the showering (obviously I fear he is also masturbating).If you can help me I would appreciate it. I live in the middle of nowhere and so don't have much support.
To be perfectly honest, I'm not a big proponent of Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com44tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-81092220716109429292011-11-30T09:19:00.002-06:002011-12-01T11:29:42.814-06:00Self Hate
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Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-49702175352949615862011-11-21T11:24:00.000-06:002011-11-21T11:24:17.389-06:00Watching PornographyImportant information on how to handle problems with compulsivity around pornography viewing. The more negative thoughts, the harder we are on ourselves - the less likely this problem will be solved. Instead we are finding that self-compassion, an acceptance of temptation being a normal part of life, and the ability to tolerate anxiety (instead of desperately trying to rid oneself of it) can beNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-82411128063215972072011-11-21T10:37:00.000-06:002011-11-21T10:37:06.090-06:00Love LanguagesCan Gary Chapman Save your Marriage?Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-50305694887123272352011-11-19T09:51:00.005-06:002011-11-19T10:03:49.002-06:00Depression, Suicide and StressI found all kinds of interesting tidbits of information in these articles I believe would be useful to the LDS population. Utah, unfortunately, is currently ranked highest as the state for people having suicidal thoughts. There is no scientific correlation made to Mormonism but I know many who read these results assume there is. More research needs to be done in this area.
I find my clients Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-38015790914380307012011-11-17T21:38:00.018-06:002011-11-19T09:17:47.431-06:00To circumsize or not to circumsize?My husband and I just recently had our second child, a son. We were planning on circumcising him as my husband is circumcised but as we got closer to actually going through with it my husband and I felt uneasy about it, did some research and decided that we are not going to circumcise our son. Well, my mother-in-law sent us an email expressing her concern about our decision based on the fact thatNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-71457217023253849682011-11-11T00:09:00.000-06:002011-11-11T00:09:22.063-06:00Adolescents and PornographyWhy Shouldn't Johnny Watch Porn if He Likes?
Please use this type of information in a loving and shame-reducing way to educate yourselves and your teenagers about the scientific knowledge we have at this point regarding brain sexual development. Too many times I see this type of information being shared in a fear-inducing, anxious way that only exacerbates the delicate shame-cycle many of our Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-13133961251234281802011-11-10T23:40:00.001-06:002011-11-10T23:41:14.684-06:00Women's IssuesListening to these women recite their poetry, I am reminded of the many issues we face as women both nationally and internationally; culturally; religiously; politically; etc. Not to say that men don't face these issues as well - many times directly related to those we consider oppressive to women - since one of my core beliefs deals with the concept that any sexism infiltrating our humanity Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-88222048885742780872011-11-04T11:25:00.001-05:002011-11-04T11:26:21.627-05:00Putting a Face to AutismSuccess Nation's VideosNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-82885597417360579332011-11-03T13:04:00.010-05:002011-11-03T16:20:57.873-05:00How does our polygamous history affect our current relationships?I have a unique relational issue that only pertains to us as Latter-day Saints. We believe if we are sealed together as husband and wife, and we honor our covenants, we will be together as husband and wife for eternity. That seems like a simple enough doctrine. However, we also believe widows and widowers may remarry upon the death of their spouse. Then we have sealing policies that allow living Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-28642076489268270882011-10-27T15:47:00.001-05:002011-10-27T15:48:16.816-05:00Therefore PerfectCheck out my new article in Exponent II:
Therefore Perfect
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-61628507812172044472011-10-27T14:51:00.000-05:002011-10-27T14:51:10.980-05:00New ADHD GuidelinesNew ADHD GuidelinesNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-81171397075202906342011-10-25T11:15:00.001-05:002011-10-25T11:22:38.180-05:00Teenage BrainsI suggest all parents of adolescents, especially adolescents that seem to be pushing your buttons, pick up a copy of the October 2011 National Geographic and read Beautiful Brains.
We do not do ourselves any favors as Mormon parents when we expect our teens to be rule-following, seminary-attending, testimony-having, sexually-repressing individuals that do not doubt, question and or rebel in any Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-83322698989955017982011-10-20T14:36:00.002-05:002011-10-20T14:36:59.778-05:00Looking for a Sex TherapistDoes anyone know of any sex therapists in the Provo/Ogden area that you would recommend?
Natasha Helfer ParkerNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-6795412546702317802011-10-20T14:35:00.000-05:002011-10-20T14:35:37.474-05:00Childhood Sexual AbuseCheck out my latest podcast on Mormon Stories regarding surviving sexual abuse as a child and/or adolescent.
Childhood Sexual Abuse with Dr. Barbara MorrellNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-74612520625967614232011-10-12T20:41:00.000-05:002011-10-12T20:41:06.818-05:00Quote of the Day“Knowing all that I know, I still have to relearn these lessons every time I lose connection with my loved one. I still have to face that nanosecond of choice: to blame, to try and grab control, to dismiss, to get revenge, to shut down and shut out, or to breath deep and tune in to my own and my loved one’s emotions, to risk, to reach, to confide, to hold.”
Dr. Sue Johnson
Author of Hold Me TightNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-89397743483560353632011-10-12T10:50:00.000-05:002011-10-12T10:50:37.173-05:00FMH: I was sexually abused...Check out my latest post on Feminist Mormon Housewives:
I was sexually abused....Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-50483113146606896102011-10-07T11:56:00.001-05:002011-10-07T11:57:42.522-05:00Sex After Cancer
Good in Bed is offering a free download of Sexy Ever After: Intimacy Post-Cancer for the month of October.
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-38388178613851355412011-10-07T09:40:00.000-05:002011-10-07T09:41:02.716-05:00Jewish View on Repentance Process
Animated Shorts on the Lessons of Forgiveness and Repentance for the High Holy Days
Some interesting clips on views on forgiveness, repentance, and repair from a Jewish perspective.
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-80453044817094406352011-10-06T14:13:00.001-05:002011-10-06T14:14:22.212-05:00Men like Affection Too
We often mistakenly assume that women want affection and men want sex. These types of myths can be harmful to both men and women since it limits our expectations and behaviors of both our spouse and self. In the following study they found that BOTH men and women rated higher on overall sexual satisfaction if they scored high on forms of physical affection such as kissing, cuddling, caresses, Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-28816037839291006032011-10-06T14:04:00.000-05:002011-10-06T14:05:10.491-05:00Sexual Education from Fathers
In a recent study published in the Journal of Family Issues it discusses the importance of fathers participating in the sexual education of their daughters. Only 21% of the participants reported having had sexual education conversations with their fathers. 79% of the participants reported wishing that their fathers had shared more information. Girls seem to want a man's perspective on how menNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-1334481226800977652011-10-06T12:26:00.001-05:002011-10-06T12:29:59.760-05:00Porn versus Erotica
An email conversation with one of my readers:
Hello Natasha,
I've been following your blog for a few months and really appreciate what you do. I listened to your recent podcast on Mormon Stories on pornography and thought it was excellent. I think your willingness to openly discuss and analyze important topics is something we need more of. In fact, my issue is that many of the questions I Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-64219548874951256842011-10-06T10:52:00.000-05:002011-10-06T12:53:32.443-05:00Adult ADHD
ADHD is a diagnosis many kids and adolescents are thought to eventually grow out of - but not necessarily everyone does. Although there exists some controversy on the diagnosis of ADHD for adults, this may offer some useful information:
10 Signs You Could Have Adult ADHD
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-50586145304615885252011-09-29T08:12:00.001-05:002011-09-29T08:12:31.608-05:00FYI: Anger
Anger often gets a bad rap as an emotion - and granted, many times bad behaviors follow angry feelings. However, anger can be a useful tool to clue you into some of your own needs, feelings, values and possible lack of boundaries. Anger in of itself is not as bad as we might think.
What is Anger Trying to Tell You about Your Life?
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-41253160277987104802011-09-27T09:53:00.001-05:002011-09-27T09:53:24.822-05:00Treating Depression
Check out my latest podcast on Mormon Stories! Great information on depression and treatment of.
Treating Depression in Mormon Culture
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-74884093606754839252011-09-22T10:35:00.004-05:002011-09-22T10:35:50.869-05:00Poll on Tithing
Take note of my new poll on the sidelines regarding our relationship with tithing. Thanks in advance for participating!
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-61881635463004003062011-09-22T10:00:00.000-05:002011-09-22T15:10:16.138-05:00Resources for Teen Sexual Education?
Natasha - thanks for a great blog. My husband and I have a toddler son, but I am already thinking about his adolescence and future sex education. Obviously it is a long way off, and things might change in the meantime, but I really wish there were more resources available to young people to actually get clear, honest, non shame-inducing sex education. I know some people who turn to porn mostly Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-65464692795498888892011-09-22T07:21:00.000-05:002011-09-22T10:05:51.817-05:00Referrals in Utah
Hi I was just wondering if you know some therapists in Utah that are good? If there are any at the UofU Hospital or close to Layton?
Unfortunately, since I live and practice in Wichita, KS I am not as familiar with my colleagues in Utah. I have the intent to somehow have a page on this site that would advertise LDS therapists that have gone through some type of screening process with me, butNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-32230583133478432622011-09-20T22:28:00.002-05:002011-09-20T22:29:39.448-05:00FYI: What to Say to Someone who is Depressed
What to Say to a Loved One with Major Depression
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-62798155488254047542011-09-14T09:06:00.001-05:002011-09-14T09:08:58.044-05:00Guilt and Shame...I HIGHLY recommend this podcast on Mormon Matters regarding the complex balance between healthy guilt and toxic shame. They touch on topics that I am constantly addressing in my practice.
The Dynamics of Guilt and Shame
On a related topic, here is another great podcast!
Mormonism's Messages about Motherhood Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-50317983880522164832011-09-14T09:00:00.000-05:002011-09-14T09:11:51.888-05:00How to Have Better Sex in Your Mormon MarriageCheck out my latest podcast on Mormon Stories regarding Mormon Sexuality within marriage with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson- Fife and John Dehlin.
How to Have Better Sex in your Mormon MarriageNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-27999420195340070682011-09-09T14:32:00.000-05:002011-09-09T15:00:30.690-05:00Don't miss Dr. Finlayson-Fife in Salt Lake City!As many of you know, I had the immense pleasure and privilege of interviewing Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife for Mormon Stories last fall on an incredibly important topic that has been broached on this blog numerous times: LDS Female Sexuality. We just recently did a follow up to this initial interview called: How to have Better Sex in your Mormon Marriage. I respect and endorse Dr. Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-10615793236478907622011-09-09T12:33:00.059-05:002011-09-09T12:33:00.177-05:00How do I keep an eternal perspective through infidelity?How does one find a balance between unconditional love, differences in marriage, and eternal perspective?
Context: My wife blames her same-sex affair and relapse affair (4 months later) primarily on my poor church attendance (as well as my social anxiety). She knows she should take responsibility but returns to blaming me when talking about us to me and family. I made large strides in focusing onNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-90296550542859163502011-09-09T08:41:00.005-05:002011-09-11T00:52:44.685-05:00Using Dance as an Emotional MediumI am a great fan of using mediums of the senses to allow for expression of human emotion. And I am a great fan of dance. Several dances that were particularly touching to me as a fan of So You Think You Can Dance:
Addressing Infidelity, Domestic Violence and/or other Spousal Heartbreak:
You Make a Fool of Me
Total Eclipse of the Heart
Addressing Anxiety, Depression or any other Mental Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-27352120771715068282011-09-08T23:51:00.006-05:002011-09-09T00:18:36.490-05:00Are sexual toys inappropriate?Natasha, I thought this was a great article. Lots of great ideas. We have started using a few toys but wonder if there are certain types that might be outside of being appropriate. Do you have any opinions about this?
Thanks!
I don't necessarily see it as my role to tell couples what is or is not appropriate when it comes to their sexual preferences, creativity and recreation. I see this more Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-65878731384601120572011-09-08T23:30:00.000-05:002011-09-08T23:30:30.258-05:00FYI: Divorce Rates in the Bible BeltInteresting implications that we may want to look at as members of a religion where many marry at younger ages than the national norm.
What's fueling Bible Belt DivorcesNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-53625267415899973012011-09-08T12:25:00.001-05:002011-09-08T23:33:24.066-05:00I miss the blog...Just wanted to say I missed the way the blog used to be more personable instead of lists of articles to read. I like the idea of listening to the interviews, but I rarely have that amount of time alone and quite to try and take it in, transcripts would help me immensely to comprehend it.
With that said, I still think you are wonderful and fill a much need hole in Mormon counseling. There are not Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-46041507231376404982011-09-07T15:13:00.000-05:002011-09-07T15:13:52.985-05:00FYI: Parenting ClassThe following is an advertising for those of you in the Wichita area interested in attending the "Love and Logic" parenting class:
Would you like to feel more confident as a parent? Would you like to have more fun parenting? Would you like to feel more relaxed at the end of the day?
Becoming a Love and Logic Parent, developed by the Love & Logic Institute, Inc., was designed to help you Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-35235602730621051262011-08-30T16:54:00.002-05:002011-08-30T16:54:33.040-05:00FYI: Quote of the Day“We are a question-asking people. We have always been, because we know that inquiry leads to truth. That is how the Church got its start, from a young man who had questions. In fact, I’m not sure how one can discover truth without asking questions. Some might feel embarrassed or unworthy because they have searching questions regarding the gospel, but they needn’t feel that way. Asking questions Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-57983592168817206002011-08-30T15:37:00.002-05:002011-08-30T15:37:26.969-05:00FYI: Situational DepressionWhen Life Gets You Down: Coping with Situational DepressionNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-5725609596067869202011-08-29T11:15:00.001-05:002011-08-29T11:16:26.400-05:00A Mormon Family's Battle with Mental IllnessCheck out my latest interview on Mormon Stories with a mother and son discussing how they dealt with a variety of mental health issues. One Mormon Family’s Battle with Mental Illness and DepressionNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-4465621627067651152011-08-22T23:35:00.000-05:002011-08-22T23:35:16.046-05:00FYI: Effects of DeploymentLength of Parental Military Deployment Associated With Children's Mental Health Diagnoses, Study FindsNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-68254477259851268812011-08-22T23:03:00.002-05:002011-08-22T23:03:57.539-05:00FYI: CodependencyDo you have a codependent personality?
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-40600038184633448822011-08-22T01:36:00.000-05:002011-08-22T01:36:29.661-05:00FYI: A Look at DepressionDepression Animation: A Look at the BrainNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-46386126166813312822011-08-22T01:33:00.000-05:002011-08-22T01:33:56.395-05:00FYI: Myths about Mental IllnessMyths about Mental Illness
by Elder Alexander B MorrisonNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-68952754437231948822011-08-20T15:18:00.000-05:002011-08-20T15:18:29.890-05:00Quote of the DayDon't let the people who gave you a bad impression of your religious tradition be the only ones to define it. You, too, are part of that tradition and you are not just a descendant. You are also an ancestor and you help to create the future of that tradition. So give it a second chance... Look to the best of the tradition.
Rabbi Sandy SassoNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-60927902811762638712011-08-19T14:21:00.003-05:002011-08-20T15:28:27.085-05:00How do I prepare for my marriage night?I am a 23-year old single male and have a question (several really). I have OCD (Obsessive Thought Disorder more specifically I guess) which I feel was brought on by severe guilt that I had from a masturbation/pornography problem when I was in High School. I say that, so it can be taken into account as I ask my question. When I masturbated, a couple of times I just laid face down with pressure onNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-87503482075010576232011-08-17T14:08:00.005-05:002011-08-17T16:48:14.405-05:00Is my marriage out of my hands?Soon after we married 26 yrs ago, my husband changed, literally overnight, 180° and has never been the same. He went from a happy, engaging husband to a brooding, depressed roommate. He was upset and miserable about everything. He doubted the church and 4 yrs later left the church. It was difficult understanding his disaffection but I tried to be accepting and accommodating. It was heartbreaking Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-41923696470637827122011-08-14T23:17:00.002-05:002011-08-14T23:17:22.078-05:00FYI: Finding a Good TherapistFind the Right Therapist to Fight DepressionNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-54044445657963426932011-08-03T14:01:00.002-05:002011-08-03T14:01:57.913-05:00FYI: 7 Ways Depression Could be UsefulWhat a great positive reframe!
Is Depression Good For You?Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-51731514729254091912011-08-02T16:08:00.001-05:002011-08-02T16:09:50.245-05:00Donations for JoplinFor those who would like to help out with efforts in Joplin, MO there is an effort to help with replanting of trees called A Tree Grows in Joplin. All donations are tax deductible.
Several of the Joplin Stake boy scouts will be earning their Eagle Scout Awards through this venture.
Our Joplin stake center was completely decimated by this disaster. This is a picture I took of what was left of Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-59044890604878824962011-08-02T14:59:00.000-05:002011-08-02T14:59:07.989-05:00StatisticsI do a lot of reading in different journals/articles/etc. and come across a lot of research and statistics that may be of interest to some of my readers. So I'm going to try and start posting more that I come across as one more resource available on this blog.
According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, adolescents who have babies cost American taxpayers about Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-46017928015059306802011-07-28T14:22:00.000-05:002011-07-28T14:22:29.578-05:00FYI: Sunstone Workshop on MarriageFor your information:
Adam Fisher will be presenting at the Sunstone Symposium in Ogden, UT on August 3 from 9:30am-1:00pm in regards to the topic of marital issues when one of the spouses leaves the faith.
Crisis of Faith and Attachment Injuries in an LDS Marriage
Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-43620609403306211792011-07-25T01:18:00.000-05:002011-07-25T01:18:03.031-05:00FYI: Dementia11 Early Signs of DementiaNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-81005633130063417172011-07-25T01:13:00.002-05:002011-07-25T01:13:35.281-05:00FYI: Erectile Dysfunction7 Common ED Myths UncoveredNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-25394700459704509452011-07-25T00:45:00.000-05:002011-07-25T00:45:12.380-05:00FYI: Common "Addictions"8 Most Surprising AddictionsNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-28162897826535934832011-07-15T13:42:00.001-05:002011-07-15T13:42:34.028-05:00FYI: Trauma and stress symptomsTrauma may leave signs of stress. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration shares these signs that a person who has survived a traumatic event needs assistance managing stress.
The signs:
• Disorientation or confusion and difficulty communicating thoughts.
• Limited attention span and difficulty concentrating.
• Becoming easily frustrated.
• Overwhelming guilt and self-doubtNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-75660460895780463592011-07-06T03:31:00.001-05:002011-07-06T03:34:01.429-05:00FYI: Survey for LDS Same Sex AttractionStudy being conducted by the Utah State University if anyone would like to participate:
Exploration of Experience of and Resources for Same-Sex Attracted Latter-day SaintsNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-55154822617994452452011-07-06T03:22:00.003-05:002011-07-06T03:27:34.688-05:00FYI: Finding HappinessIt is interesting to me that much of what the research shows about "happy" lifestyles coincide with teachings and principles of the gospel. What I notice in my practice is that when members can live these principles from a natural resonance, this fares much better than living them out of fear, guilt or competition with others. When members are trying to keep caught up with an infinite "to-do" Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-90491568125416909862011-07-06T03:11:00.000-05:002011-07-06T03:11:32.287-05:00FYI: Should I Cheat?I highly recommend the book After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD mentioned in this article.
Should I Cheat?Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-76821518384381203602011-07-06T02:59:00.000-05:002011-07-06T02:59:28.787-05:00FYI: Benefits to watching TV?The Couch Potato Guide: 11 Ways to Make Your TV Habit HealthyNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-17249382743565091052011-07-06T02:50:00.003-05:002011-07-06T03:13:43.989-05:00FYI: Dangers of Ignoring DepressionWhat if Depression Goes Untreated?
Spotting the Signs of a Depressive Episode
Dispelling Major Depression Myths
Depression in MenNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-50593348096584430022011-06-27T10:53:00.001-05:002011-06-27T10:55:41.259-05:00Get TogetherI will be traveling through Utah this coming week and would love to get to meet some of my readers. I plan to be at Sugarhouse Park in Salt Lake City on Wednesday, June 29th from 12:30-3:30 for a "bring your own food - bring your own children" type of get together. I will set up by one of the play areas on the southeast corner near the basketball courts. Let me know through the comment thread Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-23348153213202076472011-06-25T02:11:00.002-05:002011-07-06T03:15:24.463-05:00How do I make sex exciting for my wife?Natasha-
I can't express enough how much I have enjoyed your blog and thank you for the information you have made available to your readers.
I have a question or am in need of guidance rather.
I have been happily married for over ten years (3 kids) and enjoy an amazing sex-life with my wife. We have sex 4-5 times a week and there are ZERO complaints from my end. She has no complaints Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-15175845358540426642011-06-24T00:18:00.003-05:002011-07-06T02:51:38.192-05:00FYI: Faking OrgasmsNot a great idea for a satisfying sex life - even when good intentions abound.
Faking orgasms. Why women do it?
Do Men Fake Orgasms?Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-45638253244351313132011-06-24T00:08:00.002-05:002011-06-24T00:08:29.379-05:00Quote of the DayYour life is your own. You mold it. You make it. All anyone can do is to point out ways and means which have been helpful to others. Perhaps they will serve as suggestions to stimulate your own thinking until you know what it is that will fulfill you, will help you to find out what you want to do with your life. Eleanor RooseveltNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-85803327973064277592011-06-24T00:06:00.002-05:002011-06-24T00:06:53.360-05:00FYI: Adult ADHDAttention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) Screening TestNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-53785597406006715932011-06-22T11:16:00.002-05:002011-06-22T11:16:54.610-05:00FYI: MoodLifestyle Factors that Affect MoodNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-15514128873553183212011-06-16T00:36:00.005-05:002011-06-16T00:59:06.230-05:00Anal sex...How can I get my wife to want to try anal sex???
Your wife should in no way feel obligated to try anal sex.
Some couples find it to be an enjoyable part of their repertoire - but by no means does having or not having anal sex have anything to do with an overall pleasurable and satisfying sex life. It is not a common form of sex within most marriages (statistics range somewhere between 9-30% asNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-38685892202490268362011-06-16T00:22:00.000-05:002011-06-16T01:24:05.187-05:00FYI: Birth Control for MenThe Revolutionary New Birth Control Method for MenNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-83706498851770451292011-06-15T23:30:00.001-05:002011-07-06T04:16:27.649-05:00FYI: Feminist Mormon HousewivesI have been asked to contribute to Feminist Mormon Housewives, so feel free to take a look at my writing over in that realm.
Copy of my most recent post:
First and foremost I would like to thank you all for the very warm welcome to FMH! Your comments were so heart warming and edifying for me. Thank you!
Secondly, I already want to offer an apology that I will never be able to keep up with Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-10134309526906249452011-06-15T14:14:00.000-05:002011-06-15T14:14:32.880-05:00FYI: What not to say...'You Look Great" and other LiesNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-21986735111162873142011-06-14T12:47:00.002-05:002011-06-14T12:47:27.878-05:00FYI: Depression and AppetiteDepression's Effect on Your AppetiteNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-53589154226674660362011-06-13T23:53:00.002-05:002011-06-13T23:53:40.496-05:00FYI: Adult Sex EdMany Adults in the Dark when it comes to Sex EdNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-79009838145480329062011-06-09T08:11:00.000-05:002011-06-09T08:11:02.631-05:00Quote of the DayWe now realize that sex if primarily an interpersonal team process; like any other team process, you win or lose as a team. This is not to negate that each partner is responsible for her/his desire, arousal, and orgasm, or that the same sexual encounter is often motivated and experienced in a different manner. Ultimately, the motivation for couple sexuality is to energize your bond and Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-30431708046621359622011-06-08T22:42:00.002-05:002011-06-08T22:42:30.447-05:00Quote of the DayWhen knowledge is achieved, faith is no longer necessary.
Natasha Helfer ParkerNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-90864359167957915832011-06-07T14:10:00.002-05:002011-06-07T14:10:24.479-05:00FYI: New PollPlease take note of the new poll on my sidelines! Thank you. Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-88290661607536745602011-06-07T01:17:00.000-05:002011-06-07T01:17:03.216-05:00FYI: EroticaI get a lot of questions about erotic resources so here is a link I thought might be useful.
10 Movies to Spice Up your Sex LifeNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-75082452913720781892011-06-06T23:39:00.004-05:002011-06-07T01:08:56.311-05:00Is my husband temple worthy?My libido is low. I'm on antidepressants and my hubby and I knew that this was a possible side effect when I started my treatment. Because my sex drive is so low, and his has not changed, he confessed he sometimes masturbates in the shower. Now he feels like he is not temple worthy. We love each other but this is becoming a sore spot in our marriage. How can we help each other?
I am somewhat Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-15516821633499774152011-06-06T00:27:00.000-05:002011-06-07T00:29:15.387-05:00FYI: Prostrate HealthProstrate Treatment and Loss of Penile LengthNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-2795188363465502062011-06-05T23:51:00.003-05:002011-06-07T08:08:58.785-05:00FYI: Natural Treatments for DepressionAlong with traditional antidepressant medication, there are also other useful ways of treating depression. What I have found with numerous clients is that the higher the combination of treatments, the higher the positive effects (as well as longer lasting).
The Best Natural Treatments for Depression
St. John's Wort for Depression
Avoiding the Return of DepressionNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-43877283507392127662011-05-31T12:37:00.001-05:002011-05-31T12:38:30.319-05:00Race in the LDS church and mental health ramifications....
Check out my latest podcast on Mormon Stories addressing the mental health and relational ramifications of race related doctrines throughout the history of our church.
Dustin Jones and the Lingering Legacy of the LDS Negro DoctrineNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-29691932898584357642011-05-31T12:28:00.002-05:002011-05-31T12:28:57.682-05:00FYI: Post-Heart Attack DepressionThe Heart-Attack Depression LinkNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-74677557628142509012011-05-26T17:32:00.002-05:002011-06-06T13:36:41.160-05:00FYI: Sacrament Talk
Several people have wanted a copy of my talk on Sunday so I thought I'd just post it here. We had a special service dedicated to visitors. So, my attempt was to discuss some of our fundamental beliefs as well as make it relevant to long term members as well. Forgive any formatting or spelling errors.
Good morning, My name is Natasha Parker for those of you who don’t know me and I am very Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-10980858689778147372011-05-24T00:24:00.000-05:002011-05-25T01:53:02.361-05:00Do I have a hyper active libido?I am a 21 year old single Male and have been dealing with OCD for about 5 years now. I have recently discovered, by reading your blog, that my conditions perfectly fit the description of hyper active libido. I have struggled with masturbation for much of those 5 years and could not figure out why I could not stop. I do not view pornography, and consider that a blessing. However my drive keeps me Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-34913816435166035642011-05-23T17:00:00.000-05:002011-05-25T17:01:12.937-05:00Quote of the Day"The danger of focusing so much on trauma is that you develop the view that trauma is somehow the human condition, rather than occasionally a part of it."
Salvador MinuchinNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-67556458023004455352011-05-21T12:16:00.000-05:002011-05-23T12:17:49.117-05:00Quote of the DayWe must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us. Joseph CampbellNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-12892250512493785942011-05-20T12:14:00.000-05:002011-05-23T12:16:36.028-05:00FYI: Signs of Mental Illness5 Signs of Common Mental Health ConditionsNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-28660893836095740902011-05-16T23:07:00.001-05:002011-05-16T23:09:43.557-05:00FYI: Why being wrong is good for youWhy being wrong is good for you
by Kathryn Schultz
"I err therefore I am." Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-32370359838600116222011-05-11T22:09:00.000-05:002011-05-13T15:29:40.505-05:00Anxious and struggling...I know you get this question a lot, and I know you don't speak for the church officially, but I'm tired of the anxiety and depression that comes without knowing. Having struggled with pornography for a long time, I have just recently become clean. But the problem is that I no longer can tell the difference between what is ok between married couples and what is not. I'm not married yet, but I Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-39311463872568782132011-04-27T09:24:00.000-05:002011-04-27T09:24:08.262-05:00FYI: Antidepressants and sexThe following article has some helpful information regarding sexual side effects some people experience when on antidepressants and what to do about them.
Will Antidepressants Wreck your Sex Life?Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4582043956625748555.post-21234622121205468182011-04-24T14:20:00.001-05:002011-04-24T14:23:33.459-05:00Happy EasterHe lives to comfort me when faint.
He lives to hear my soul's complaint.
He lives to silence all my fears.
He lives to wipe away my tears.
He lives to calm my troubled heart.
He lives all blessings to impart.
Oh, sweet the joy this sentence gives:
I know that my Redeemer lives.
May you all have an enjoyable day reflecting upon Christ's influence on your life and feeling of his love and Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10430384794341843960noreply@blogger.com0